Proverbs 19:11 Complete Jewish Bible
11 People with good sense are slow to anger,
and it is their glory to overlook an offense.
The Word of God for the Children of God.
Glory be to the Father,
and to the Son, and to the Holy Ghost;
as it was in the beginning,
is now, and ever shall be,
world without end. Amen, amen.
Possessing the Wisdom to Overlook an Offense
In a world with the internet, deeply hurtful social media tactics and more, how do we move past offenses where others knowingly or unknowingly wound us?
It can be even more disappointing and discouraging when a fellow Christian offends us, because we believe we should have higher expectations for them.
Like Romans 12:10 encourages, we hope believers will give preference to one another.
Romans 12:9-13 Easy-to-Read Version
9 Your love must be real. Hate what is evil. Do only what is good. 10 Love each other in a way that makes you feel close like brothers and sisters. And give each other more honor than you give yourself. 11 As you serve the Lord, work hard and don’t be lazy. Be excited about serving him! 12 Be happy because of the hope you have. Be patient when you have troubles. Pray all the time. 13 Share with God’s people who need help. Look for people who need help and welcome them into your homes.
Likewise, we hope Christians grasp the concept of “taming their wild tongues” and the true importance of the words we speak, remembering how one day we will all have to give an account for every empty word spoken (Matthew 12:36).
Matthew 12:33-36 Easy-to-Read Version
What You Do Shows What You Are
33 “If you want good fruit, you must make the tree good. If your tree is not good, it will have bad fruit. A tree is known by the kind of fruit it produces. 34 You snakes! You are so evil. How can you say anything good? What people say with their mouths comes from what fills their hearts. 35 Those who are good have good things saved in their hearts. That’s why they say good things. But those who are evil have hearts full of evil, and that’s why they say things that are evil. 36 I tell you that everyone will have to answer for all the careless things they have said. This will happen on the day of judgment.
Still, even in the midst of all of these hurtful experiences, God gives us the opportunity to learn how to work through offenses. And if we’re willing to submit to Him, He will refine and fine-tune our hearts during the process.
Looking Honestly at Ourselves
Psalm 101:1-5 Easy-to-Read Version
A song of David.
101 I will sing about love and justice.
Lord, I will sing to you.
2 I will be careful to live a pure life.
I will live in my house with complete honesty.
When will you come to me?
3 I will not even look at anything shameful.[a]
I hate all wrongdoing.
I want no part of it!
4 I will not be involved in anything dishonest.
I will have nothing to do with evil.
5 I will stop anyone who secretly
says bad things about a neighbor.
I will not allow people to be proud
and think they are better than others.
Taking on the hardcore challenge of overlooking offenses is good work for us to do. As we work to truly forgive others, we’ll uncover and discover weaknesses in ourselves, ones we likely did not know were even resting, residing, within us.
Offenses have a way of shining a spotlight within us, exposing secret areas in our hearts and souls that could use revealing and sacrificing. If we truly want God to transform and renew us (Romans 12:1-2), then we want to be willing to examine our own behaviors and attitudes, like 2 Corinthians 13:5 urges us to do.
2 Corinthians 13:5-9 Easy-to-Read Version
5 Look closely at yourselves. Test yourselves to see if you are living in the faith. Don’t you realize that Christ Jesus is in you? Of course, if you fail the test, he is not in you. 6 But I hope you will see that we have not failed the test. 7 We pray to God that you will not do anything wrong. Our concern here is not for people to see that we have passed the test in our work with you. Our main concern is that you do what is right, even if it looks as if we have failed the test. 8 We cannot do anything that is against the truth but only what promotes the truth. 9 We are happy to be weak if you are strong. And this is what we pray—that your lives will be made completely right again.
So overall if we are each courageously willing, this purging process can help us experience a godly type of gratefulness for the cleansing work it does within us (1 Thessalonians 5:18).
1 Thessalonians 5:14-22 Easy-to-Read Version
14 We ask you, brothers and sisters, to warn those who will not work. Encourage those who are afraid. Help those who are weak. Be patient with everyone. 15 Be sure that no one pays back wrong for wrong. But always try to do what is good for each other and for all people.
16 Always be full of joy. 17 Never stop praying. 18 Whatever happens, always be thankful. This is how God wants you to live in Christ Jesus.
19 Don’t stop the work of the Holy Spirit. 20 Don’t treat prophecy like something that is not important. 21 But test everything. Keep what is good, 22 and stay away from everything that is evil.
In the sitcom “King of Queens” Lyin’ Hearted episode, Carrie’s (Leah Remini) father, Arthur (Jerry Stiller), is in hospital for heart surgery.
While looking through his important papers , Carrie discovers dad withheld significant opportunities from her that would have made her life far better.
Deeply hurt, offended, and disappointed by these discoveries, Carrie’s first reaction is to lash out and hurt him back.
But in a split moment, where it looks likes she’s losing him to cardiac arrest, her heart dramatically changes from grudges to forgive him. Within minutes Carrie realizes how her father’s offenses do not outweigh her love for him.
Like her character experienced, when it comes to responding to an offense, it’s far more beneficial and wise to look at the whole picture to see just what really matters to us, especially when it comes to responding to the failures of others.
Seek FIRST the Kingdom of God, His Righteousness
Matthew 6:25-34 Easy-to-Read Version
Put God’s Kingdom First
25 “So I tell you, don’t worry about the things you need to live—what you will eat, drink, or wear. Life is more important than food, and the body is more important than what you put on it. 26 Look at the birds. They don’t plant, harvest, or save food in barns, but your heavenly Father feeds them. Don’t you know you are worth much more than they are? 27 You cannot add any time to your life by worrying about it.
28 “And why do you worry about clothes? Look at the wildflowers in the field. See how they grow. They don’t work or make clothes for themselves. 29 But I tell you that even Solomon, the great and rich king, was not dressed as beautifully as one of these flowers. 30 If God makes what grows in the field so beautiful, what do you think he will do for you? It’s just grass—one day it’s alive, and the next day someone throws it into a fire. But God cares enough to make it beautiful. Surely he will do much more for you. Your faith is so small!
31 “Don’t worry and say, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’ 32 That’s what those people who don’t know God are always thinking about. Don’t worry, because your Father in heaven knows that you need all these things. 33 What you should want most is God’s kingdom and doing what he wants you to do. Then he will give you all these other things you need. 34 So don’t worry about tomorrow. Each day has enough trouble of its own. Tomorrow will have its own worries.
In overlooking offenses, seeking to be wiser than most, we can surely seek God first and foremost for His wisdom, asking Him to lead us in our responses and actions, and to reveal how they may affect our relationships in the long run.
Instead of laser focusing on others’ lack of love and wisdom towards us, we can first turn ourselves off, change the energy to love towards them, choosing to offer them forgiveness, patience even when it seems like they don’t deserve it.
Like Colossians 3:13 reminds us, “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Colossians 3:8-17 Easy-to-Read Version
8 But now put these things out of your life: anger, losing your temper, doing or saying things to hurt others, and saying shameful things. 9 Don’t lie to each other. You have taken off those old clothes—the person you once were and the bad things you did then. 10 Now you are wearing a new life, a life that is new every day. You are growing in your understanding of the one who made you. You are becoming more and more like him. 11 In this new life it doesn’t matter if you are a Greek or a Jew, circumcised or not. It doesn’t matter if you speak a different language or even if you are a Scythian.[a] It doesn’t matter if you are a slave or free. Christ is all that matters, and he is in all of you.
Your New Life With Each Other
12 God has chosen you and made you his holy people. He loves you. So your new life should be like this: Show mercy to others. Be kind, humble, gentle, and patient. 13 Don’t be angry with each other, but forgive each other. If you feel someone has wronged you, forgive them. Forgive others because the Lord forgave you. 14 Together with these things, the most important part of your new life is to love each other. Love is what holds everything together in perfect unity. 15 Let the peace that Christ gives control your thinking. It is for peace that you were chosen to be together in one body.[b] And always be thankful.
16 Let the teaching of Christ live inside you richly. Use all wisdom to teach and counsel each other. Sing psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs with thankfulness in your hearts to God. 17 Everything you say and everything you do should be done for Jesus your Lord. And in all you do, give thanks to God the Father through Jesus.
God’s Word explains that when we overlook offenses, it reflects well on us.
Proverbs 19:11 Easy-to-Read Version
11 Experience makes you more patient, and you are most patient when you ignore insults.
Proverbs 19:11 The Message
11 Smart people know how to hold their tongue;
their grandeur is to forgive and forget.
Godly handling of offense also helps us to wisely experience it less and less, not because others aren’t offending us, but because we aren’t receiving it into lives.
What “triggers” a feeling within you that “you have just been offended?”
Who has offended you?
What has offended you?
Knowing exactly who you are, What is your first response most likely to be?
Should you to engage in, practice an age old effort of “grabbing your tongue?”
Did not quite remember to grab and stifle your fiery tongue soon enough …?
Remembering to always be including yourself, Who do you need to forgive?
What part and parts of the Word of God need to be vigorously consulted now?
Take time today to pray forgiveness over any offenses you are holding onto.
In the name of God, the Father and God the Son and God the Holy Spirit,
Let us Pray,
Matthew 6:7-13 The Message
7-13 “The world is full of so-called prayer warriors who are prayer-ignorant. They’re full of formulas and programs and advice, peddling techniques for getting what you want from God. Don’t fall for that nonsense. This is your Father you are dealing with, and he knows better than you what you need. With a God like this loving you, you can pray very simply. Like this:
Our Father in heaven,
Reveal who you are.
Set the world right;
Do what’s best—
as above, so below.
Keep us alive with three square meals.
Keep us forgiven with you and forgiving others.
Keep us safe from ourselves and the Devil.
You’re in charge!
You can do anything you want!
You’re ablaze in beauty!
Yes. Yes. Yes.
Glory be to the Father,
and to the Son, and to the Holy Ghost;
as it was in the beginning,
is now, and ever shall be,
world without end. Amen, amen.
Loving God, Living God, Loving Hope, Living Hope, Loving Living Life His Way! "Many things are possible for the person who has hope. Even more is possible for the person who has faith. And still more is possible for the person who knows how to love. But everything is possible for the person who practices all three virtues." - Brother Lawrence (1605-1691), Practicing the Presence of God (1692). 