Barriers to Christmas Joy: About Confronting or Celebrating Family estrangement this Holiday Season? Psalm 27:9-10

Psalm 27:1-10 Amplified Bible

A Psalm of Fearless Trust in God.

A Psalm of David.

27 The Lord is my light and my salvation—
Whom shall I fear?
The Lord is the refuge and fortress of my life—
Whom shall I dread?

When the wicked came against me to eat up my flesh,
My adversaries and my enemies, they stumbled and fell.

Though an army encamp against me,
My heart will not fear;
Though war arise against me,
Even in this I am confident.


One thing I have asked of the Lord, and that I will seek:
That I may dwell in the house of the Lord [in His presence] all the days of my life,
To gaze upon the beauty [the delightful loveliness and majestic grandeur] of the Lord
And to meditate in His temple.

For in the day of trouble He will hide me in His shelter;
In the secret place of His tent He will hide me;
He will lift me up on a rock.

And now my head will be lifted up above my enemies around me,
In His tent I will offer sacrifices with shouts of joy;
I will sing, yes, I will sing praises to the Lord.


Hear, O Lord, when I cry aloud;
Be gracious and compassionate to me and answer me.

When You said, “Seek My face [in prayer, require My presence as your greatest need],” my heart said to You,
“Your face, O Lord, I will seek [on the authority of Your word].”

Do not hide Your face from me,
Do not turn Your servant away in anger;
You have been my help;
Do not abandon me nor [a]leave me,
O God of my salvation!
10 
Although my father and my mother have abandoned me,
Yet the Lord will take me up [adopt me as His child].

11 Teach me Your way, O Lord,
And lead me on a level path
Because of my enemies [who lie in wait].
12 
Do not give me up to the will of my adversaries,
For false witnesses have come against me;
They breathe out violence.
13 
I would have despaired had I not believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord
In the land of the living.
14 
Wait for and confidently expect the Lord;
Be strong and let your heart take courage;
Yes, wait for and confidently expect the Lord.

Word of God for the Children of God.

Glory be to the Father,
and to the Son, and to the Holy Ghost;
as it was in the beginning,
is now, and ever shall be,
world without end. Amen, amen.

Psalm 27:9-10 is perfect as a personal reminder that God takes care of you and/or as an evangelism tool to witness to others about Him. 

Psalm 27 is a prayer/poem attributed to King David; it is a cry for help in a time of great distress, a renewed vow of faithfulness to God, ultimately a statement of belief in His power and complete trust in the protection only God can provide.

9-10 You’ve always been right there for me;
    don’t turn your back on me now.
Don’t throw me out, don’t abandon me;
    you’ve always kept the door open.
My father and mother walked out and left me,
    but God took me in.

A father and a mother are the primary source of protection and safety for any child in this world.

If you were born and/or grew up fatherless and/or motherless, you can easily identify with this Scripture.

If you grew up in a broken or violent, abusive, unstable, drug infested home, and were physically and/or emotionally abandoned by one or both parents at some point, you can also easily identify with this Scripture, because you know for a fact that your parents, might have endangered, neglected abandoned you.

A father and a mother are the primary source of protection and safety for any child in this world. If you were born and/or grew up fatherless and/or motherless, you can easily identify with this Scripture. If you grew up in a broken or abusive home, and were physically and/or emotionally abandoned by one or both parents at some point, you can also easily identify with this Scripture, because you know for a fact that your parents abandoned you.

It is much harder to identify with it, if you grew up in a… so called… “normal family”, with so called “good parents”, who worked hard and provided for you, and even harder if you grew up in a so called “Christian household”, where Sundays were all about church and the Lord. So, the message of this Bible verse applies to everyone, not just those who grew up fatherless and/or motherless for one reason or another.

Let’s put it this way: if you grew up in a performance based environment and you were conditionally loved and accepted, you were not loved at all! If your father and mother’s love was based on your achievements, they didn’t love you at all, and you were spiritually abandoned by them!

Conditional love is a form of abuse that breaks the heart and it is probably the hardest form of abuse to understand. It is a form of abuse because it is conditional acceptance based on performance and achievements, it is shame based love and acceptance, it makes you feel defective like there is something wrong with you, in such environment there is no room for failure, nor for relaxing or slowing down, you live under pressure all the time in order to achieve what is asked of you and fulfill the expectations of your parents.

If your parents made you feel rejected because you failed to live up to their expectations, they broke your heart and abandoned you spiritually!

If your parents loved you, but only because you devoted yourself entirely to live up to their expectations and succeeded, they broke your heart and abandoned you spiritually!

If you grew up in a family where mom and dad weren’t in TRUE covenant relationship with God, not relating to Him in TRUE knowledge and responsibility (… if they went to church on Sunday doesn’t mean they were in covenant relationship with God, it only means they followed religion), mom and dad were not treating each other like Christ, children were brought up in a home where the family was not in covenant relationship with God and didn’t love the children like Christ… you have a broken heart and were spiritually abandoned by your parents!

Children abandoned by their parents grow up with a lack of personal identity; their true identity in Christ is shattered and a new identity is shaped by the parents’ expectations and the baggage that comes with it, or by the rebellion to such expectations. In either one of these cases this new identity becomes their life and reality.

King David’s earthly father pretty much fit the description (1 Samuel 16)! His father didn’t have much consideration for him; he thought highly of his other sons because they had the physical appearance of strong warriors, and because of that he thought that one of them would surely make a great king for Israel.

But, as Scripture says, “the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” – 1 Samuel 16:7. David’s father thought less of him because he was the youngest and wasn’t tall and strong like his brothers, he didn’t see much potential in David and favored his brothers because of their strength.

David had a heart for God, but his father didn’t see that as a point of strength, but of weakness. David’s father didn’t do much to encourage his youngest son’s self-esteem and self-confidence; so, David grew up not having much of a father to count on for support and encouragement, even though his father was a “good father”, always present in the household, and took care of all his children, including him.

When the prophet Samuel went to Bethlehem to look for Israel’s new king among Jesse’s sons and anoint him, David’s father was well pleased to bring all his sons before Samuel, but didn’t mention to Samuel that he had another son (David) who was not present; that’s because he didn’t have much consideration for him, and didn’t think he had what it takes to be a king, nor that he had any ability to lead the nation and the army, but God knew his heart and chose him.

If your father and mother didn’t raise you in the TRUE knowledge of God, didn’t teach you the TRUE Principles of His Kingdom and didn’t love and protect you the way God would love you and protect you, then your parents may have been good parents by world standards, but spiritually they abandoned you.

So, what now?

If you are a Christian and love God more than this world, you are not fatherless and motherless, you are not left to yourself, in your loneliness and brokenness, to figure things out and make it. God is your protective Father and His Law will guide you and sustain you!

In order to understand the practical meaning of this verse, we need to read the entire chapter of Psalm 27, where we see that God’s protection is directly linked to, intertwined and dependent upon the sincere heart of the believer who offers sacrifices with joy (verse 6) and seeks God’s face (verse 8).

The offering of sacrifices in the Old Testament Temple was the physical act of the spiritual renunciation of one’s own earthly desires and sin. The New Testament parallel to this is “offering ourselves as a living sacrifice” (Romans 12:1) or “offering up spiritual sacrifices” (1 Peter 2:5), meaning repentance of sin and renunciation of carnal desires. Seeking God’s face means to seek who He is, and, knowing that He is holy, we are to seek holiness and conform to Him, which can be achieved by following God’s Law and renouncing all that is contrary to it and of this world.

And, sure enough, King David states in Psalm 27:4 – “One thing I have desired of the Lord, that will I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life.”

To be in the house of the Lord in the Old Testament meant to be ritually sanctified and therefore legally acceptable to enter God’s Temple; and to dwell in the house of the Lord meant to dwell, in a figurative way, among all those believers who keep themselves ritually sanctified and are therefore legally accepted to be in God’s presence, in a nutshell it means to be part of God’s holy people and in covenant with the Father.

In order to be ritually sanctified and lawfully accepted by God, people had to follow His Law, that was based on His righteousness, and apply it to their daily life with a joyous heart (not because it was imposed on them), knowing that obeying God’s Commandments is His love and a source of blessing.

Things are the same today in the New Testament era; the only difference is that under the New Covenant all rituals are abolished, but NOT God’s Law.

Matthew 5:17 – “Do not think that I came to destroy the Law or the Prophets. I did not come to destroy but to fulfill.”

1 John 5:3 – “This is the love of God, that we keep His Commandments.”

John 15:10 – “If you keep My Commandments, you will dwell in My love.”

To obey God’s Commandments is the Narrow Way that Jesus talked about, it’s what gives your heavenly Father the power and right to call you His child, keep you in His safe place and protect you from adversities.

King David always turned to the Lord, for strength, protection, encouragement, support and hope. He knew that the way to God is the way of His Law, and in verse 11 he prayed “Teach me Your way, O Lord, and lead me in a path of justice and uprightness because of my enemies.”

The Psalm ends with these verses, generally translated as follows:

11-12 Point me down your highway, God;
    direct me along a well-lighted street;
    show my enemies whose side you’re on.
Don’t throw me to the dogs,
    those liars who are out to get me,
    filling the air with their threats.

13-14 I’m sure now I’ll see God’s goodness
    in the exuberant earth.
Stay with God!
    Take heart. Don’t quit.
I’ll say it again:
    Stay with God.

Psalm 27:11-14 Names of God Bible

11 Teach me your way, O Yahweh.
    Lead me on a level path
    because I have enemies who spy on me.
12 Do not surrender me to the will of my opponents.
    False witnesses have risen against me.
        They breathe out violence.
13 I believe that I will see the goodness of Yahweh
    in this world of the living.

14 Wait with hope for Yahweh.
    Be strong, and let your heart be courageous.
    Yes, wait with hope for Yahweh.

The word translated as wait literally means to bind together by twisting; figuratively it means to be strong and robust, as the implication is that when you bind something together by twisting you will make it strong and robust.

https://www.blueletterbible.org/lexicon/h6960/kjv/wlc/0-1/

Bottom line – the practical application for today is: 

your parents might have failed you, but if you bind yourself together with God by obeying His Law and conforming to Jesus, which is His love, He will be your Father forever and He will take care of you.

Please, drop any bias, rationales, hindrances, share this powerful Bible message with others: realize we are all, will become, fatherless and motherless in a way or another. Realize all our shared vulnerabilities, Psalm 46:10 hope in the Lord.

He is the perfect Father, holy and sinless, always close by protective and loving, He teaches us the way of righteousness, which guides us and leads us moves us on the right path, strengthening our heart in time of need and keeps us from falling into sin and its harsh and painful consequences.

He is our Savior and our deliverer.

Do not be silent, practice the love of God with someone, friends or enemies or complete strangers, clean or unclean. Let them know that if their father and mother have abandoned, abused, neglected them, to hope in God. Truth is the Lord will 100% take care of them as a loving Father with his beloved children!

In the name of God, the Father the Son and the Holy Spirit ….

Praying …..

Psalm 78:1-8 English Standard Version

Tell the Coming Generation

A Maskil[a] of Asaph.

78 Give ear, O my people, to my teaching;
    incline your ears to the words of my mouth!
I will open my mouth in a parable;
    I will utter dark sayings from of old,
things that we have heard and known,
    that our fathers have told us.
We will not hide them from their children,
    but tell to the coming generation
the glorious deeds of the Lord, and his might,
    and the wonders that he has done.

He established a testimony in Jacob
    and appointed a law in Israel,
which he commanded our fathers
    to teach to their children,
that the next generation might know them,
    the children yet unborn,
and arise and tell them to their children,
    so that they should set their hope in God
and not forget the works of God,
    but keep his commandments;
and that they should not be like their fathers,
    a stubborn and rebellious generation,
a generation whose heart was not steadfast,
    whose spirit was not faithful to God.

Glory be to the Father,
and to the Son, and to the Holy Ghost;
as it was in the beginning,
is now, and ever shall be,
world without end. Amen, amen.

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